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Too Much Stick. Not Enough Carrots!

 

It doesn’t happen all the time, but the other morning I woke up after hearing this distinct pronouncement:

“Once God has given you the sovereignty of your dreams, his greatest delight is that you should express it.”

I thought it was so profound that I immediately wrote it down before I could forget it.

What is meant by “sovereignty”? The dictionary says it is “freedom from external control; controlling influence.” Some synonyms are autonomy, freedom, and self-determination.

The “sovereignty of my dreams” must be then that I have the controlling influence over whether or not those dreams are expressed. Not only that, though. It has to do with how those dreams are expressed. 

Are my dreams a burden to me? Something I have to do, requiring discipline and grit? For instance, if I dream of aging with SASS – Spiritually connected, Agile, Strong, and Self-reliant – I have sovereignty or control over how I go about creating that result.

Not even considering alternative methods, I could trust that conventional medicine has all the answers to managing the common discomforts of aging with pharmaceuticals and with procedures to replace worn-out parts. That doesn’t sound like fun to me, but to each his own.

“I discovered there are deep, hidden costs to seeing doctors and the medical system, as an oligarchy over your body. The price of relying on the outside world? Your self-trust. Specifically, your intuition.” —Ali Shapiro, health coach

Or I COULD hold a stick over my own head and force myself to eat a certain way that I don’t enjoy, move in ways that are hard and don’t make me feel good, take so many pills that I barely choke them down, and/or force myself to meditate every day frustrated that I can’t settle my mind.  

Maybe you’ve tried some of those methods?

As my coach said, “Too much stick. Not enough carrots!”

How about this instead?

Following my TRUST formula, which stands for Tune in, Release, Upgrade, Slow down, and Transform, you find that aging with SASS can actually be – dare I say it? – FUN.

Your Sovereign Self, Your Higher Self, Your True Self – whatever term you like to use – wants you to find delight in expressing your dream of a healthy, happy life. Your spirit self wants you to take care of your vessel in a joyful way. To be in your body, embodied, appreciating the moment-to-moment unfolding of your life and dreams. There’s another hefty carrot too:

“Happy and healthy people have a better chance to live with confidence and contribute value to the world than anyone else.” – James Clear

I’m here to help you create a path to a happy, healthy and a delightful, SASSier YOU. Contact me to schedule a discovery session to learn how.

How I Prioritize Caring for Me

Women in general have a hard time with it….
How dare you think of prioritizing yourself when you have ALL THE THINGS to look after?
Is that how you see yourself? Are you someone who tends to put everyone else’s needs first? Are you feeling drained or stressed or less well than you’d like?

You do realize, don’t you, how ridiculous it is to pour from an empty pitcher? It’s the same with your own energy and reserves.

How can you possibly give your best if you’re not looking after your own health and well being first?

Are you wanting to learn how to get good at creating rituals that support your best self?

If you are, you’re going to want to begin by making very small changes that will slowly but surely change how you view yourself.

Here’s how I go about it.

In order to make anything into a habit, I have the what, where, and when already figured out.

One of the first things I do after I wake up is to drink two full glasses of water, one of which contains a bit of raw apple cider vinegar. This serves to hydrate my body (it gets dehydrated during the night) and helps alkalize the system.

I have room-temperature water ready and waiting on the counter from the night before. I have the ACV nearby. I know I’ll do it as soon as I step into the kitchen. Voila! An easy, no-thinking-required health-supporting habit.

I am a person who hydrates and alkalizes first thing!

My next what-where-when is to gather my phone with the meditation app “Insight Timer,” walk to my designated meditation space and sit for whatever time I have that day. This follows right after the water ritual. Meditation is fabulous for managing stress and not difficult if you start with only a few minutes and lower your expectations about quieting your mind!

I am a person who meditates every day!

No self-care plan would be complete without including some movement each day. Of course, your choice of workout or other movement depends on what lights you up. Forcing yourself to do something you detest will not be helpful.

For me, my what-where-when looks like deciding what my body wants that day – will it be yoga, core exercises, a few vigorous intervals, or maybe some resistance work (sometimes all of the above!)? Whatever I do, I change it up a little each day. It takes place in the same room and right after my meditation practice.

If you’re not already committed to a movement practice of some kind, I recommend starting with just five minutes of an activity you think you might like. It could be walking, dancing around the kitchen, or playing something silly with the kids or the dog. It definitely doesn’t have to involve a gym membership – unless that’s your thing.

I am a person who exercises regularly!

Of course, the same principles apply to any new behavior you want to make your own.

  1. Figure out why you want to make the change.
  2. Decide how you’ll incorporate it into your existing routine with the what, where, and when.
  3. Start doing the thing – but for just a few minutes. Keep at it.
  4. Shift in belief happens.

You see how a few minutes of anything practiced frequently will change how you see yourself? It’s sneaky!

And that, my friends, is how you and I prioritize caring for ourselves.

If you want my help shifting beliefs and habits related to your health, please fill out the contact form here.